As in every family, opinions sometimes differ about how things should be done. Everyone has his own character and we are not perfect. So we do sometimes argue. But St Benedict says in his Rule that we should make peace with our brethren before the sun goes down (ch. 4). Our unity is a gift of God, which it is the abbot’s special responsibility to preserve. One of his most important tasks is to serve the unity between all members of the monastic family.